Brilliant article, Sruthi!
Profound , ambitious, illuminating, actionable - big fan of your work. Your writing seems so personal and effecting and really brings out the angst that am sure many women feel. Your writing is so lucid! Bookmarking this for future referral. As an Indian male, I completely empathise with the purely commoditised outlook of women and "feigning" confidence. Sure, a con man is shorty for "confidence man"!
As outlined in Caroline Perez's excellent "Inisible Women", women do 75% of the global unpaid work. Women have always worked (paid and unpaid) but the traditional workplace hasn’t worked for women. It is tailored to an unencumbered worker, i.e., the male default. Because seeing humans as men is the default.
I'd appreciate your feedback on my article as I think it's another data-driven companion piece to your wonderful writing, do let me know what you think!
https://medium.com/illumination/men-are-the-default-women-are-the-exception-5fe65880aeda